Audrey, Albert, and I spent a glorious, bluebird day skiing on Mt. Hood today. On the way up to the mountain, we passed through the darling little town of Sandy, home of the iconic Joe’s Donut Shop. If you’ve ever been by there, I’m sure you know it. It looks like it’s made out of Legos.
Every time I pass by this little shop, I think of my friend, Shoshana. She spends a lot of time on Mt. Hood hiking and snowshoeing. One time she even went fishing up there on a dare. She LOVES Joe’s Donuts, which sucks for her, because she cannot eat gluten. I am unclear about whether she has Celiac or whether she suffers from a different gluten intolerance, but I am VERY CLEAR that she CANNOT eat any gluten.
Shoshana loves Joe’s Donuts SO MUCH that she stops there every time she visits Mt. Hood. She takes a special medication that allows her to digest limited amounts of gluten so that she can enjoy her donut. She wouldn’t go to these lengths for just any donut, but “Joe’s is worth it!”
Our family used to have a little house up on Mt. Hood, so we rarely passed by Joe’s at Donut Time which strictly falls between the hours of 11pm and 9am. A donut at any other time is just inadequate cake-replacement. But one spring day, Chris and I got a case of the curious munchies, so we made a special trip to Joe’s, a 40-minute round trip drive into Sandy.
We arrived in the late morning, but still within the range of Donut Time. I understand that this may be late for Donut People who start their days in the wee morning hours. The lady we encountered was lethargic and not very helpful. She barely looked at us and her bottom was glued to a chair behind the counter far away from us. There was an assortment of filled donuts, but to find out what was in each donut, Chris was required to describe each one and ask individually.
Chris: “What’s in this one?”
Tired Donut Lady: “Which one?”
Chris: “The one with purple frosting.”
TDL: “Blueberry.”
Chris: “What’s in this one?”
TDL: “Which one?”
Chris: “The one with yellow sugar.”
TDL: “Lemon custard.”
And so it went. There were probably eight different filled donuts and several others we didn’t recognize, so this took a while. By the time we made our selections, the woman had clearly had it up to here with us. She had to get off her seat to put our donuts in a box AND count out our change. If I didn’t know any better, I might have thought that we picked WRONG DONUTS making her very, very angry.
Chris and I left there feeling very confused. BUT we had a big box of donuts.
In True Fu Donut Tradition, we admired our box of treasures and sliced each one carefully into five pieces so we could all taste each one. But after the first couple of bites, I was kind of done. Perhaps the hype and high expectations put Joe’s in a vulnerable position. Or maybe the grumpy TDL put a bad taste in our mouths. Joe’s morsels were mediocre at best.
I still think of Shoshana every time I pass by Joe’s, but I feel no draw to stop by for a donut again. But here’s the weird thing. I feel a little jealous.
A lot of people love Joe’s Donuts, and I can never be in that club now. I’ll never squeal in shared excitement when Joe’s is mentioned in conversation. As a matter of fact, I’ll probably be rejected by some people if ever they found out that I think Joe’s Equals Meh.
I feel this way about a lot of things; I don’t get excited about the same things that a lot of other people seem to get excited about. Christmas. Birthdays. Jewelry. Fancy clothes. Not only do I feel like I’m missing out on all the exuberant joy, but I feel left out on top of all of that.
I’ve already written a little bit about my complicated relationship with Christmas, which also happens to be my birthday. But this year I’m initiating a new birthday tradition for myself. My birthday has never been anything super special. Folks are busy and have more important things on their minds. And some years Christmas has been really, really hard for me for reasons I won’t bum you out over right now.
To remedy my sour feelings about Christmas, it has worked well for me to celebrate the birth of Jesus any and every day, not on a certain day dictated by society. So here was my epiphany this year: I CAN DO THE SAME THING WITH MY OWN BIRTHDAY! Any day I’m having an exceptional day, I’m going to declare that day an official birthday celebration, just appreciating and relishing in the day I was born.
So TODAY, this glorious, sunny day that I spent skiing in one of my favorite places in the world with my husband and daughter, IS MY BIRTHDAY! And since I’m just making up whatever tickles my fancy, this can happen every day of the year if I want! If some women can declare a “Birthday Month,” I suppose there just aren’t any rules, are there?
I’m happy you were born, my friends!
Thank you for reading!